Do 50% of marriages end in divorce?
It was true, but now it is starting to decline
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How to win my wife back...please help?
Go to church. Seek a higher power. If god is not both of your first priorities then your marriage is doomed. Over half of marriages in this country fail and it's terribly sad. Turn over a new leaf and start getting into Christianity. I've seen it change so many lives including my own. Congratulations on your new job! I really hope you two can make it for the sake of your son. Divorced families are so hard on children.
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Why do people oppose against gay marriages?
That's just part of their belief system. I do not understand why people care either. Turns out that two fathers turn out to be better parents than 75% of traditional nuclear families
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Do you feel facebook causes a problem in marriages?
Yes. Facebook causes problems AAAALLLL the time. Drama can easily be created (not that it always is), because people reconnecting with old flames and chatting with people from work and stuff feel like it's so easy to do and it seems so harmless on the surface, and then drama ensues as one or the other starts to flirt (because they are bored, or looking for an ego stroke, etc), and it blossoms from there, and then the other person in the relationship almost always finds out eventually, and so on... It's a much better idea to avoid the whole thing and not use facebook beyond racking up a friends list and checking out your homepage once in a while. Better safe than sorry. The road to hell is paved with good intentions, you know? Even the most loyal, honest, and well intentioned person can be susceptible to stuff like this if the circumstances are right, so I figure why take the risk? I've just seen it cause issues too many times, in strong, trusting relationships. I am not talking divorce, but definitely enough to compromise trust within the relationship
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Can this marriage be saved?
Once abuse contaminates a relationship, a line has been crossed and it becomes very difficult to draw a new line. The only hope you have of ending the abuse is absolutely refusing to tolerate any abuse of any kind - no matter what. For that, you need to be strong - so strong that you can see it coming and end it before it begins. Few women are THAT strong. They should not have to be because men should not be abusive but they sometimes are. To be that strong, you need to have a lot of self-respect. Enough respect for yourself to account for both of you. You will need to earn his respect by having INTEGRITY - that means that you say what you mean and mean what you say. The more you let him get away with, the more you erode your own integrity. Whatever you put up with will be what you get more of. You need to be clear on this. DO NOT accept what you do not want in your life. You have nothing to lose by standing your ground! If he will not respect you then you are better off without him. If you do not insist on exactly the respect you want, need and deserve then you are settling for less. Go for the WHOLE package - draw the line thick and clear and you will only risk losing what you DON'T want - no loss, my dear! Starting out so young, neither of you understand what a healthy relationship is. It sounds like you come from controlling parents and it is likely you thought marriage would free you. But you just went from the fire into the frying pan - marriage is not an escape. It is a commitment. You now find yourself stuck between parents who know nothing about healthy relationships and a husband who has not a clue! There is no one to teach or guide you! Your parents do not understand that the more they respect you the more confidence and strength they give you. So they try to control you to protect you and they make you weak and defenseless! Your husband does not understand that you get more by giving more so he is all about taking what he wants. There will be nothing to take if both of you are destroying rather than creating. You have to both be giving for your cup to be always full. It is not easy dealing with an abusive man and if you are not a strong woman, he will crush you. If you love this man and want to be with him you will have to be stronger than him your whole life. Abusers are cowards - they are so insecure and scared they will pick on anyone who looks weak to them. They are little boys with big fists. Stand your ground on everything that is important to you. Tell him that if he even threatens a hair on your head ever again, you will INSTANTLY be done with him and MEAN IT. Do not move back with him until he understands you mean business and move out again the second he even yells at you. Be ready always to flee - have money aside and a place to go. If you stay with him you must be ready to evacuate in seconds. Or you can be done with him now and find yourself a real man. Not a small boy with big fists. It all depends on what your vision for your life is. Do you have a vision? You let life take you where it did because you never believed you were worth better. You are. But it does not matter how many people think you deserve better. You are the only one who can dream better and make it happen. So what would happen if you sat down one day and decided you want MORE and BETTER than this? I know what would happen: you would get it. But to have more and better, you have to stop thinking this is as good as it gets. There is more and better in life than being a punching bag. I promise.